Did you ever long for just a few moments of peace and quiet? Have you ever wondered how some people can appear calm and peaceful when others are agitated, irritated, angry, and troubled?
A peaceful mind is not something we’re lucky to find every once in a while, it’s something we can learn to create for ourselves at any time.
Creating a peaceful mind takes:
A peaceful mind is untroubled, not just when surrounding circumstances are calm, but even when conflict and turmoil prevail. Think of peace of mind as something to choose, not something that is given or found. Choosing a calm mentality and viewpoint is empowering; waiting or hoping for someone or something to give it to us leaves us unaccountable and dis-empowered.
When we decide that peace of mind is a choice we’ve taken a very important step in attitude. Attitude is a leaning towards something; in this case we’re leaning toward taking control of our thoughts, of our feelings, and emotions. And we’re choosing peace of mind.
Initially when moving toward a more peaceful mindset you’ll probably find that you have frequent setbacks. This is where awareness is important. Plant in your subconscious the intent to spot the lack of a peaceful mindset. You’ll find the subconscious a diligent and faithful monitor. Sometimes we find these reminders annoying. It’s perfectly acceptable to decide that in this particular instance peace of mind is the last thing you want.
Go ahead and be angry, annoyed, or even vengeful. You’ll probably find that you choose to do this less and less over time. If peace of mind brings you the benefit it promises, you’ll welcome future reminders.
Being somewhat of a control freak, this is the toughest part for me—acceptance.
Acceptance sustains a peaceful mind. The peaceful mind has no need to pass judgment on others, but allows them to be whom they are choosing to be. Acceptance begins with self. If we can accept ourselves just as we are now, even while we’re intent on becoming better in some areas of our being, we can accept others more readily. We’ll have no need to compete; therefore, no need to find someone lacking as a way of compensating for our own feelings of lack.
Self acceptance is often much more difficult than it might seem. Criticizing parents, teachers, and other influential people often plant the seeds of limiting beliefs. These may take the form of subconscious beliefs such as, “I’m weak”, “I’m ugly”, “I’m selfish”, “I’m a failure.”
Listen to your self-talk for signs of these beliefs about you.
We often submerge these beliefs because they’re uncomfortable to face. But they control how we view ourselves and how we view the world. And if we can’t feel good about ourselves we can’t feel good about others.
Purging Limiting Beliefs
Most of us have lived with limiting beliefs for many years, so we should expect that it will take some time to rid ourselves of them.
This three step process may be helpful:
- Pick an area of life in which you’ve had great difficulty achieving a goal. Picking a quiet time and place, sit comfortably with both feet on the floor. Take several slow and deep breaths, breathing in through your nose slowly, holding your breath for a count or two, and releasing it slowly through your nose.
- Ask a higher power to bring you clarity about your difficulty achieving this goal. As you wait for clarity, sit quietly, continuing to breath deeply and slowly. Think about your difficulty reaching the goal; do so without emotion and without judgment. Observe as if you were looking at someone else.
- When some insight comes to you, accept it without judgment, without anger, and without shame. Accept whatever comes to you that appears to be a limiting belief; it’s neither good nor bad, right nor wrong. It just is. Now decide if you wish to keep that belief. It’s your choice. If someone important to you often criticized something about you, choose to accept or reject the criticism. It’s only true if you believe it.
With an attitude of peace of mind, an awareness of your state of mind, and acceptance of self and others, you can achieve peace of mind.
Featured image, Tranquility, courtesy Flikr user Eximius84
Peace Image courtesy Flikr user OLGA LEDNICHENKO